Dear Dr. June: Why do some friends ignore you when you are telling them something that seems like it would interest both of you? Sometimes weíll all be together and they just ignore when I tell them something and start another conversation. That bothers me because it happens all the time and they act interested in other stuff everyone is telling. Is that normal for this to happen with your friends?
ó Ignored, Tampa, Florida

Dear Ignored: Well, sometimes during conversations everyone is busy with their own thoughts and wanting to share their own comments. Thatís not uncommon. It is suspicious, however, when the norm is ignoring you and not even acknowledging your comments. If you are comfortable enough then you may want to confront them about it. They may feel you blow off their conversation and in return ignore yours. I do have a concern they may not really be your friends. Once you discuss your concern with them and nothing changes, realize there are other people who will be happy to have a friend. So, you can make it your turn to ignore those who didnít appreciate you.

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Dear Dr. June: I met a man and we just chatted for a few while standing in line at the grocery store. A friend of mine invited me on the walking trail and I saw him again but this time we were formally introduced. She said heís going to ask me out. By the time you get this I will have said yes to the date but is it a good idea to date someone who you werenít friends with beforehand? ó Sue, Tampa, Florida

Dear Sue: You canít become friends with someone if you donít spend time to get to know them. You canít date someone if you donít go out and spend time with them. Gee, I think there is a common theme here. Spend time and get to know each other no matter what. Ingenious. I wasnít friends with my husband first and I still married him. So, absolutely. Have at it and I hope you have a great relationship.

ó Dr. June Hall is an author and motivational coach who has reached millions through her advice column and public speaking engagements. If you have questions for Dr. June, contact her at www.junehall.com.